Appearing vulnerable, innocent, humble, and preying on your sympathy early on. — By Shahida Arabi Covert or more vulnerable narcissists betray the traditional depiction of what we assume narcissists look like. They can appear more hypersensitive, shy, and even innocent. This is ultimately what makes them so dangerous — you rarely ever see them coming. Appearing vulnerable, innocent, humble, and preying on your sympathy early on.