Releasing Attachments, Reinventing Yourself, And Opening Your Life To New Love
By Brianna Wiest
Heartbreak is a hard thing, but it’s not a forever thing, and you will experience a disproportionate amount of it when you’re young.
While you’re moving from relationship to relationship, working on finding the person with whom you’ll stay long-term, you’ll have to cope with not just one but often a string of losses and heartbreaks. The repetitiveness can begin to create a learned helplessness: it just seems like your heart always gets broken, you never find the right person, or nobody is quite good enough for you. But this is just a temporary thing.
Chances are…
By Holly Riordan
1. Your loneliness can trick you into missing the wrong person.Take a second to ask yourself whether you really miss them — or whether you miss the feeling of being wanted, whether you miss having someone around to keep you company, whether you miss knowing you were never alone. If you’re simply feeling lonely, then there are other people out there who can help you out. You don’t have to settle for this person you already know is bad for you. You don’t have to run back to them.
2. You cut them out of your life…
By Rania Naim
You didn’t grow up watching all those romantic movies, living all those childhood fantasies and writing all those songs and poems for your imaginary lover only to end up being someone’s backup plan or second choice. You didn’t get your heart broken way too many times only to end up being an option. You didn’t move on from your past lovers and lost all these tears or fought your innermost desires and temptations only to end up with someone who doesn’t make you feel loved or wanted. …
By Brianna Wiest
It is the hardest thing you will ever have to do, and it will also be the most important: stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love you.
Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want to change. Stop showing up for people who are indifferent about your presence. Stop prioritizing people who make you an option. Stop loving people who aren’t ready to love you.
I know that your instinct is to do whatever you can to earn the good graces of everyone you can, but that is also the impulse that…
By Nicole Tarkoff
Your leaving hurt her because she trusted you. She trusted that you wouldn’t take her love for granted, that you wouldn’t underestimate how hard it was for her to let you in, to take your hand when you offered it, to kiss you back when you kissed her first. She trusted that you’d understand how she’s been hurt before and that you wouldn’t try to hurt her like that again.
She trusted that the things you told her were true, that when you talked about a future together you actually pictured it,
that when you said all…
By Kendra Syrdal
I’m sorry for texting you. That was stupid. That was overconfident. That was abrasive. You probably didn’t need to deal with that. That probably made you feel obligated to behave a certain way or respond a certain way and honestly, I would’ve been fine if you just ignored me. It’s cool. What I can’t stand is the idea that you want to talk to me, but won’t. The idea, that you might like me, but resist. The idea, that you’re wondering about me too. But won’t admit it. That’s what bothers me. That’s what I’m not sorry…
By Ryan O’Connell
Be too old to be this stupid. Treat time like it’s nothing. Just a little toy for you to play with. Waste entire days sitting on lounge chairs with people who won’t ever mean a thing to you and feel the sun start to melt your brain. Melt, melt, melt faster, you idiot. This is fun. This is destroying yourself. The more bruises the better, right? If it didn’t hurt, it didn’t happen.
Treat love like it’s chewing gum. Spit it out, twirl it around your finger and stick it under the table. There’ll be more where…
By Holly Riordan
If you can relate to most of the comments on this list, then you need to break up with them ASAP:
1. You keep having the same arguments over and over. They might apologize for their behavior, but it clearly means nothing because they keep making the same mistakes. You aren’t growing and changing as a couple. You’re simply repeating history.
2. You dread the thought of seeing them. You’re more excited about the idea of seeing friends, seeing family, or even hanging out on your own. …
By Ryan Holiday
There comes a time when every artist can believe that the business — whether it’s music or writing or painting or poems — is a terribly unfair place (Hunter S. Thompson said the record industry was a “a cruel and shallow money trench, a long plastic hallway where thieves and pimps run free and good men die like dogs.) For me, one of those crises of faith came in 2015. It wasn’t about my own writing; in fact, I was on a bit of a streak.
Instead, it came when I was watching a documentary about MxPx…
By Rania Naim
It’s time to stop judging women who don’t want to have kids. It’s time to stop making them feel guilty because they’re choosing not to reproduce. It’s time to stop assuming that it’s a problem they need to solve because like anything in life, it’s a choice. Unless a woman can’t have children, wanting to bring children into this world should remain her choice and she has every right not to.
Some women don’t want kids because they know they can’t handle that kind of commitment for the rest of their lives. Some are too focused on…
