10 Reasons Why You’re Still Not Over Them

Remember, healing isn’t linear, and it’s okay to be at any stage of this journey.

Thought Catalog
3 min readJan 17, 2024
Lokman Sevim

By Karin Hadadan

Moving on from a relationship can be a complex and deeply personal journey. There are days where you feel as though your heart is no longer attached to them, but then a few days later you’ll find yourself thinking about past experiences, the words they whispered, or the intimate moments you shared. It’s a challenging part of life, so if you’re finding it hard to let go, know that you’re not alone. Here are 10 reasons why you might still be holding on, along with empowering insights to help you navigate this chapter of your life.

1. Shared History

You’ve built a world together where it’s just you two, and it’s hard to let go of the past. Remember, your history doesn’t define your future. You are the author of your next chapter.

2. Unfinished Business

There may be things left unsaid or unresolved, forcing you to rethink everything or to control what next looks like. Closure comes from within. Give yourself permission to find peace, even with unanswered questions.

3. Fear of Being Alone



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