You Don’t Deserve To Be Someone’s Backup Plan

Thought Catalog
3 min readAug 2, 2021
Sunsetoned

By Rania Naim

You didn’t grow up watching all those romantic movies, living all those childhood fantasies and writing all those songs and poems for your imaginary lover only to end up being someone’s backup plan or second choice. You didn’t get your heart broken way too many times only to end up being an option. You didn’t move on from your past lovers and lost all these tears or fought your innermost desires and temptations only to end up with someone who doesn’t make you feel loved or wanted. You didn’t spend all these years learning to love yourself and make it on your own so you can end up with someone who doesn’t choose you or make you a priority.

You don’t deserve to be someone’s backup plan no matter how much you love them or how much they mean to you. You don’t deserve to be loved occasionally or be with someone who’s only available when they want to be. It doesn’t matter how much work you still need to do to become a better person, it doesn’t matter how bad your previous experiences were and it doesn’t matter how great you think this person is, you don’t deserve to be with someone who neglects you and convinces you that it’s normal.

Too many good hearts fall for that kind of people. Too many strong ones end up with people who use them. Too many loyal people get taken advantage of or strung along by someone…

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