Why Empaths Always Fall In Love With Potential

Thought Catalog
6 min readMar 2, 2020
shyam mishra

If you’ve ever fallen in love with potential, you know how heartbreaking and difficult it can be to move forward and to lay all of your love down. Here are ten of our favorite reminders from our new podcast episode that will help you to heal your heart and remind you of your worth.

1. There is nothing to be ashamed of.

It is easy to feel shame over staying in a relationship or companionship for so long and not realizing that nothing was going to change. But there is nothing to feel ashamed about, because when you fall in love with potential, it means that you see the goodness in another human being. You see it where no one else does, and that is something to celebrate. Yes, you have to know when to walk away from that goodness, when to lay down that love, and that hope — when to see something for what it is. However, you never need to be embarrassed for the way you go to war for people.

2. Falling for potential is unhealthy.

At the end of the day, when you’re so empathetic and you’re so giving, you are going to attract a lot of human beings who want to warm themselves by the fire that is your heart. You are magnetic, you fix people, you see past their circumstances, and this kind of empathy can add a gentle layer of hopefulness over the issues in your relationships. I can make you blind to very apparent red flags, and it can be unhealthy to love this way because you aren’t living in a realistic relationship. You are looking at your relationship as something you’d like it to be, rather than something it actually is. It is a necessity in any relationship to be able to decipher between what is real and what is projected. You have to be able to discern reality from what you would like reality to be.

3. People will always show you who they are.

As an empath, it is easy to excuse behaviour. To paint over it, to tell yourself that no one is perfect. And while that is true, while no one…

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