This Is Why Quality Girls Attract Not-So-Quality Guys

Thought Catalog
4 min readOct 2, 2021

By Nicole Tarkoff

A Quality girl knows she’s quality. She understands her worth, even if it’s an understanding she keeps to herself. She knows she has everything to offer, which ironically (and unfortunately) leads her to offer it to the wrong people. Because not everyone can comprehend the kind of love she has to give. Not everyone can comprehend her selflessness, her ability to do things for the people she loves with no motive for recognition. Not everyone can comprehend the way she truly listens, pays attention, her ability to hear someone’s ideas, their hopes and dreams, their beliefs and opinions, and do so without detouring the conversation to make it about herself. Not everyone can comprehend all of the qualities that make her Quality, only the right people can.

Sometimes Quality girls want answers, because they feel they deserve them, and they do, but sometimes they ask the wrong questions, and not-so-quality guys know this, they prey on this. She’ll ask herself what she’s doing wrong, what it is about her that’s not enough. How can she be better for him? These are all of the wrong questions.

These are the questions that Quality girls ask themselves and heartbreakingly tear themselves apart about. These are the questions they ask when they waste their time with people who don’t deserve it, with people they think will change, people they hope that maybe they can fix, people who will somehow magically transform into their idea of someone who deserves their love.

Sometimes Quality girls give out second chances, often times it’s too liberally. Because they hope the person they’re giving them to is as good of a person as they are, that they’ll take their second chance and cherish it, that they’ll prove they’re worth it, that they’re worth every chance a Quality girl will give them.

And Quality girls aren’t immune to the disappointment that comes after, because while Quality girls have been let down before, it doesn’t make it any easier the next time it happens, doesn’t make it any less painful. Her third heartbreak isn’t any less depressing than the first, if anything it’s more, because each consecutive heartbreak she experiences makes her feel like even more of a failure.

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