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This Is How You Break Your Own Heart (Without Even Realizing You Are)
By Kendra Syrdal
You break your own heart by waking up every single morning and walking around complacent. By confusing monotony with comfort. Routine with settling. Everyday for uninspired. When you look at your life and you fail to find any spark, any zest, and any reason to laugh until you ache or dance around from pure excitement, that’s when you’ll be looking at your own life and feeling nothing but disappointment. Disappointment, boredom, and ultimately — heartbreak.
Because nothing is more heartbreaking than realizing you’re existing in a life that does absolutely nothing for you. That your life is simply going through the motions rather than pulsing, fueling, pushing, and pulling. That it has no give and take. That really, when you pull away and really look at it, it is just static.
You break your own heart when you lose your voice. When you mistake “just listening” for “never being heard.” When you make way for the opinions of others, which is admirable, but never find room for your own. When you get so lost in the proverbial shouting of everyone else that you forget to take a second and speak up for yourself. When you do a double take, triple take, umpteenth-whatever take at your own surroundings and realize that you’ve never dared to take up space.
