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Things That Aren’t Impressive (They’re Literally Just The Bare Minimum)
Remembering your birthday? Bare minimum. Making plans for your anniversary? Bare minimum.
By Molly Burford
The bare minimum consists of behaviors and traits that should be expected from your partner. Because without these things, your relationship would be dysfunctional at best or toxic at worst. But in case you needed a reminder of what you deserve at baseline, here are things that aren’t impressive (they’re literally just the bare minimum).
Being nice to you.
Your partner being nice to you is not something you should be pleasantly surprised by because someone you are dating should treat you with respect, compassion, and care. While you can absolutely be grateful for your partner’s kindness, you should also expect it. Because if they were not kind to you, what else would they be? Exactly.
Not cheating on you.
It is not difficult to commit when something is right, and it is also not hard to stay loyal if you are truly invested in a relationship. As such, your partner not cheating on you is not impressive. It is mandatory.
Remembering important details.
Remembering your birthday? Bare minimum. Making plans for your anniversary? Bare minimum. Knowing your favorite things? Bare minimum.
Texting and/or calling you back.
Can’t believe this needs even needs to be said but your partner should text and call you back within an appropriate amount of time. Ignoring you, delaying conversations, or leaving you on read for days on end is not okay. It is blatant disrespect. The way our generation has normalized ghosting and avoidance is honestly shameful. Demand better for yourself because you deserve better.
Making an effort with your friends and family.
Someone you are in a relationship with should always be respectful and interested in the people you hold closest. This does not mean they have to be best of friends. But they should at least try to connect at the level they can. After…
