The Worst Relationship Of Your Life Will Be With A Bare Minimum Man

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3 min readJun 28, 2022
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By Holly Riordan

The worst relationship with your life will be with a bare minimum man because you’ll probably stay longer than you should. You’ll probably have trouble coming up with a reason to leave because technically he isn’t treating you horribly. Technically he isn’t doing anything wrong. But he’s not doing anything extra either. He’s not making you feel loved and supported — and that’s reason enough to leave. You don’t need to find a huge flaw in order to justify the breakup. If you aren’t getting as much as you deserve, either ask for more or walk out the door. It’s not greedy. It’s treating yourself like a priority. It’s deciding that you matter and that you aren’t going to settle for less than you deserve any longer.

The worst relationship with your life will be with a bare minimum man because you’ll feel like a nag. After all, they won’t do anything sweet unless you ask them, unless you bring it up first. Plus, you’re the responsible one in the relationship, the one who cares more, so you’ll be the one planning dates. The one asking him to go places with you. The one asking him to set aside time for you. He won’t be putting in any effort or including you unless you ask to be brought along, so you’ll feel like you’re the clingy one — but in the right relationship, you won’t be made to feel like you’re asking for too much. You won’t have to ask at all because your partner will do sweet things without you begging. They will pick up on what makes you happy and do it on their own because they want to go above and beyond. They want to make you smile.

The worst relationship with your life will be with a bare minimum man because you’ll always be busy. After all, you’re going to carry the relationship on your back. You’ll have to come up with dates and conversation topics and dinner plans. You’ll have to make all the decisions in the relationship because they aren’t putting in their fair share. They’re doing the smallest amount possible without getting in trouble. They’re skating by based on how much they know you will accept — so stop accepting their behavior. Stop letting them get away with going through the motions.

When you’re dating someone who does the bare minimum, you’re never going to be satisfied with the relationship. No matter how much you love them or how much they claim to love you, they’re never going to go above and beyond in order to make you feel special. They’re never going to inconvenience themselves to do something sweet for you. Instead, they’re going to insist that you should be happy that they’re dating you at all. They’re going to minimize your feelings when you tell them you’re upset. They’re going to make you feel like you’re asking for too much when in reality you should be asking for someone so much better than them.

Holly Riordan is a writer and author from Long Island, New York.

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