The Only Person You Should Try To Fix Is You
By Rania Naim
If you’re a fixer by nature, you probably find immense joy in trying to help people heal or trying to fix them because you see their potential. You know they’re capable of much more and you hate seeing them stuck in situations that don’t serve them. That is especially true when it comes to the closest people to your heart — your family, your best friends, or your partner — but the truth is, until these people are ready to fix themselves, there’s only so much you can do, and the more you try, the harder it will be.
The one thing I’ve learned about ‘fixing’ others is that we sometimes neglect our own needs and desires in the process. We focus too much on attending to that person and we get sucked into the cycle of getting them out of their own mess that we forget to pick up our own mess first.
You can be there for someone and help them with everything that you’ve got, but ‘fixing’ them will always remain their job, not yours. Your only job is to fix yourself, because that’s the only power you have and you will never be able to pour from an empty cup. I have noticed that a lot of people who can’t fix themselves try to fix others, and even though it’s the most selfless thing on the planet, part of it feels like these people gave up on themselves.
