The Law Of Mirroring Explains Why You Keep Attracting The Same People, Places And Problems

The law of mirroring is one of the 12 universal laws, and is sometimes referred to as the law of attraction, though they are not exactly the same thing.

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Ivan Oboleninov

By January Nelson

The law of mirroring is one of the 12 universal laws, and is sometimes referred to as the law of attraction, though they are not exactly the same thing. The law of mirroring explains that we aren’t only attracting certain circumstances into our lives, we are actually getting glimpses of who we are through how we perceive others. That which is painful can teach us where we need to heal. That which is joyful can teach us where we are doing well.

Life is not happening to you, it is a reflection of you.

There’s an incredible secret about life that truly powerful and fulfilled people understand, and very few others do. Everything is feedback. When there seems to be a consensus in the way that people respond to you, or a pattern of failed relationships, or a manner in which you are consistently let go of jobs for underperforming, people begin to respond one of two ways.

Most assume the world is unfair and they are victims of its injustices. But the outliers move in a different direction. They begin to understand that the world is not targeting them. It is responding to them.

Anaïs Nin said it like this: “We see the world not as it is, but as we are.” Iyanla Vanzant said it like this: “What we love in other people is what we love in ourselves. What we hate in other people is what we cannot see in ourselves.”

The point is that the extent of our perception of the world is reliant on how well developed our minds are. There’s extensive research to back this up: people aren’t capable of expressing empathy until they can identify a similarity between them and a stranger. Once they can relate to someone else’s circumstances (even if they are as basic as ‘that person is also a mother,’ or ‘that person is from the town I grew up in’) they’re able to show compassion and understanding.

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