The Difference Between A Nice Guy And A Good Man

While the nice guy has a pleasant demeanor and will most likely avoid conflicts, he is like this because he is, deep down, self-centered.

Thought Catalog
2 min readAug 29, 2023
Trinity Kubassek

By Kelly Peacock

There is a difference between a nice guy and a good man.

And it all depends on their actions, their intentions, and their overall character.

While the nice guy has a pleasant demeanor and will most likely avoid conflicts, he is like this because he is, deep down, self-centered. Narcissistic, even. He’s concerned about how others perceive him and he wants compliments and to be validated as “such a nice guy.” The nice guy does things as a means of wanting to look good and wanting to impress others. He cares too much about his reputation and he just wants to be liked.

The good man, on the other hand, is kind. He acts with good intentions and he does so as a means of a good character. He knows that avoiding confrontation is not the way to do things — he knows it’s necessary to demonstrate integrity, moral courage, and wanting to challenge societal norms especially if it’s for the greater good. The good man does things — no matter what he looks like — because he believes it’s the right thing to do.

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