The Best Response To A Bare Minimum Man Is Going No Contact
If he wanted to give you more than the bare minimum, he would.
By Molly Burford
I get it. You want it to work out. You want it to be him. You want him to do better because you know he is capable to do so. You figure it could be the way you’re phrasing things, that perhaps you’re not communicating clearly enough. Perhaps you are being too difficult and your expectations are unrealistic. You’re beginning to believe that you’re the problem. Because he won’t change, no matter how many times you ask and plead and beg. Maybe it really is you.
So, you give him more time. You remain patient and understanding. You pick up the slack. You plan the dates, initiate conversations, listen to his problems, and wait for him to be “ready” for a more serious relationship. You compromise and compromise and compromise until you eventually have no room left to bend.
Here’s the truth: In a way, it is you. But not because you’re the problem but because you’re settling for less than you deserve. You’re putting up with receiving the bare minimum or less because you’re in love with the idea of who he could be, not who he truly is.
If he wanted to give you more, he would. If he wanted to make a serious commitment, he would. If…
