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If He Won’t Commit To You, Commit To Yourself
Commit to yourself because you’re your own constant.
By Molly Burford
You’ve been dating a wonderful guy. You have undeniable chemistry. He makes you laugh and is totally supportive. You hang out or go out every weekend and text and FaceTime each other in between seeing each other.
It all seems to be going so well. Until you discuss making it exclusive, an idea that he is not interested in whatsoever.
Because it turns out that he isn’t looking for anything serious. He wants to keep it casual and fun. He sincerely likes you a lot, but it isn’t good timing for him right now. He isn’t ready.
He just isn’t in a place to commit.
And for a while, you wait. You hope that maybe he’ll change his mind since it isn’t personal. It’s only timing, right? Time changes constantly! Maybe he’ll learn something about you that he can’t lose. Maybe it’ll work out. Maybe he’s just scared.
But he doesn’t change his mind because he was telling you the truth. He’s not scared. He doesn’t want anything serious and timing does not evolve in your favor. And even if the reason for all of this is nothing personal, that doesn’t change the fact that he won’t commit. That doesn’t change what he wants.
