How You Will Marry The Wrong Person

We were never taught.

Nati

By Brianna Wiest

We don’t know ourselves.

Our lives are performance art for the people we think we have to appease and impress. Our minds are so entrenched in what we think other people think we can’t work through our madness and passions and packed up sorrows. We can’t give air to our fears and desires if they’re not a scene of the show, so we don’t. How can we ever know what we really want, what really feels right, when we’re too afraid to know ourselves at all?

So we don’t understand other people.

What we perceive in others is a reflection (and oftentimes, projection) of what we understand of ourselves: the good, the bad, the cold, dead ugly. The people who squawk loudest about what others need to change are the ones most pent up about what they cannot change themselves. We don’t understand this dynamic. We think what we perceive is different from what we are, and so we condemn and judge and become selfish. If we don’t understand the hardware, we can’t operate the machine.

We aren’t used to being happy.

We say we want to be happy, but what we really want is what we’re used to, and because we’re so used to love being mixed with other stuff… control, humiliation, loss, pain, suffering… we seek…