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How To Break Someone’s Heart
By Jamie Varon
You will break someone’s heart if you regard them as your own entertainment. If you need them to curb your loneliness or for them to provide you with excitement, you will break someone’s heart. If they are nothing more than a source of lust or happiness or fleeting exhilaration, then that is what they will be: fleeting. You will leave your lover’s heart broken if you see them as someone who is required to provide your joy and happiness, instead of someone who you are building a life with.
You will break someone’s heart if you forget they are a person who has their own desires, needs, and thoughts. If you expect them to be a certain way based off your own needs, desires, and thoughts, and you do not allow yourself to fall in love with who they are, instead of who you want them to be. If you hold them to your standards instead of discovering them and knowing them, you will break their heart. You will fall out of love and drown in the expectations you have unwittingly flung onto them.
You will break someone’s heart if you do not commit to them fully, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. If you constantly compare them to your past or to new people that you meet and you let the absence of newness tell you that there is absence of love, then you will break their heart. If you’d rather pursue the spark of something new, instead of the endurance of committed love and if you’d rather be known superficially instead of known deeply, then their heart will break.
You will break someone’s heart if you stop growing as a person, if you become a victim to your life’s circumstance, if you blame them for every problem. If you put your happiness or your well-being into their hands and forget that humans are fallible and not always the best at holding other people’s hearts gently, then you will break them. You will break someone if you do not take responsibility fully for your own life. If your dependence on them consumes you and you allow yourself to be swayed by the tides of their moods and you make your love all about what you can get out of it, then you will break their heart.
You will break someone’s heart if you do not know how to fight for yourself and how to fight for the love you’ve built together. If every disagreement and misstep results in your…
