Here Is What It Feels Like To Be Terrified Of Commitment
There is no logic to the fear of commitment. And there is no romance in it either.
By Heidi Priebe
There is no logic to the fear of commitment. And there is no romance in it either.
When you’re scared of commitment, you want to run from the bad things. You want to run from the good things. There is some inherent, unpredictable part of you that has been programmed to “Go! Flee! Get out!” every time you encounter something real and you’re not sure what it is or why it’s there. You simply experience its underlying nuances — it wants and wants and wants until it gets. And then some sort of panic mode is activated — as soon as it has, it wants to drop. It wants to jump ship. To escape. To start all over.
It’s not an insecurity and it’s not a point of pride. It’s not refusing love because you think you don’t deserve it. It’s not disdaining affection because you think that you’re above it. It seems to be nothing more than a flaw in our most basic faculty of reason — the part that moves from want to get to keep breaks down once it reaches that final step. It is the act of being stuck in an undying loop: Want, get, want again. Want more. Always want.
