Eye Contact, Not Roses: 9 Simple Things Women Find Sexy That Men Underestimate

Thought Catalog
5 min readJul 19, 2022
Vera Arsic

By Mélanie Berliet

1. When he makes eye contact instead of investing in grand gestures.

There are so many reasons not to overdo it when it comes to wooing a woman. A dozen red roses or a single long-stem might make the ladies of The Bachelor swoon, but those cheesetastic gestures never play out as well in real life as they do on television. Eye contact, on the other hand, is a powerful, underrated approach to winning a woman’s heart (and the right to poke her vagina, maybe). Frequent, extended gazes feel sincere because no one can hide behind their eyes. A man who makes eye contact often comes off as honest and interested. Every bouquet of flowers eventually dies, bleeding into the next, but our peepers and the experiences they record live as long as we do.

2. When he’s fit but not ripped.

The difference in sex appeal between a gym rat with rows of visible abdominal muscles and a man with a nice lean torso is definitely negligible. Sure, Channing Tatum is hot as hell. But we don’t need you to be Channing Tatum to get turned on. Just like you (hopefully) don’t need us to be Allessandra Abrosio. Physical fitness is great, but too much muscle and an unhealthy fixation with…

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