Couples Who Really Know Each Other Do These 11 Things In Their Relationship

Thought Catalog
4 min readSep 24, 2021
Anastasiya Lobanovskaya

By Nicole Tarkoff

1. They acknowledge their feelings (all of them).

When you truly know each other, you don’t fake your feelings. You don’t pretend to be okay when you’re not, and you don’t just ‘sweep things under the rug.’ You know that each of your feelings deserves to be felt, and that you shouldn’t be embarrassed or ashamed for having them. You put it all out there because honest communication is how your relationship thrives and you both are well-aware of this.

2. They’re fearless when it comes to communication.

Nothing is left unsaid. You don’t go to bed mad at each other, even if it means you’re up until 5 am. You ask the important questions, not the meaningless ones. You’re honest even when it hurts because you know you both deserve the truth.

3. They’re able to laugh at each other, not just with each other.

When you really know someone you’re completely fine with them laughing at you, not with you. You trust that it’s never their intention to hurt your feelings, and you’re comfortable enough to be your complete and whole self, no matter how weird, eccentric, complex, or absolutely crazy that may be. Every couple laughs with each other, real couples are fine with laughing at each other too.

4. They like themselves individually.

You’re the happiest you’ve ever been with this person, but at the same time, you know who you are without them, and you like and accept who that person is. Sounds weird, but you each like yourself, not in a narcissistic way, but in a way that reflects the lives you have outside of each other. Because this person may be the love of your life, but they’re not your entire life, and you both like that about each other.

5. They spend time apart.

Couples who really know each other know that a little space is healthy. They don’t need to be with each other every second of every day. They aren’t jealous when you spend the weekend away reuniting with friends from college, and you aren’t jealous when…

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