By Brianna Wiest
Heartbreak is a hard thing, but it’s not a forever thing, and you will experience a disproportionate amount of it when you’re young.
While you’re moving from relationship to relationship, working on finding the person with whom you’ll stay long-term, you’ll have to cope with not just one but often a string of losses and heartbreaks. The repetitiveness can begin to create a learned helplessness: it just seems like your heart always gets broken, you never find the right person, or nobody is quite good enough for you. But this is just a temporary thing.
By Nicole Tarkoff
(March 21st to April 19th)
You should know that they can be a bit impulsive. They tend to say or do things before thinking them completely through, but it’s mainly because they’re the perfect combination of fearless and carefree. While they might act on their impulses, they are a breath of fresh air and constant energy.
(April 20th to May 21st)
You should know that they’re very stuck in their ways. They are stubborn to the core, and if you’re trying to change the way they do or see things, you should stop while you’re ahead. They…
By Shahida Arabi
Empaths are deeply sensitive individuals who are highly attuned to the emotions and energy of others. They can easily take on the emotions of others as their own. This can be a challenge when they have porous boundaries and end up absorbing the pain and stress of others. Empaths are sharply intuitive and are adept at reading people and situations beyond just surface-level impressions. Due to their giving nature as well as their keen insight into the human psyche, they tend to be natural healers.
What is an Empath?
You may have heard the term “empath” before…
By Brianna Wiest
Figuring out whether or not something is truly right for you isn’t always an intuitive process.
Sometimes, the things you’re meant for will scare you. Sometimes, they’ll surprise you. Sometimes, they’ll fill you with joy, and other times, confusion.
When something is right for you — truly, completely right — you’ll experience a process of acceptance, self-awareness and ultimately, ease. Whether it’s your relationship, your job or your city, here’s how to tell you’re on the right path:
The city you end up with may not have been one on your radar. …
By January Nelson
1. The jealous guy. You might think his jealousy is cute at first. You might think it shows how much he cares about you. But that cuteness won’t last forever. Soon, that jealousy will turn into controlling behavior. He will try to dictate what you’re allowed to wear, who you’re allowed to be friends with, and what time you’re allowed to leave the house. And if you don’t listen to him, there are going to be plenty of fights. Save yourself the trouble and avoid guys who are overly jealous at all costs.
2. The guy with…
By Heidi Priebe
The year that I was twenty years old, I went on a self-destructive rampage.
I’ll spare the specifics of what that spree entailed (Because my mom has the internet. Hi Mom), but the funny part about it was that I couldn’t figure out for the life of me where I was going wrong. From where I was standing, the constant stream of bad choices I was making were entirely circumstantial and largely unavoidable. I wanted to be happy, I just couldn’t get there (by no fault of my own!).
One night, after a particularly bad date with…
By Chelsea Fagan
Accept the fact that it’s not going to happen. Force yourself to say it out loud, if necessary. Maybe this is precipitated by them moving on and being happy with someone who is decidedly not you, or maybe it’s just from a quiet, repeated demonstration of their romantic disinterest. But the point is that you are never going to be with them — not in the way you want to, not in the way you’ve dreamed about and made elaborate plans for whenever you found yourself unable to sleep at 3 AM. …
By Brianna Wiest
Falling in love is easy.
It’s staying in love that people have a hard time with.
Falling in love is easy because what most people think is “love” is a subconscious, neurological, chemical reaction to another person.
Attraction is based on differing DNA, and we pick up on attraction through visual cues and scents, all of which signal to us that someone has chromosomes enough unlike ours to be a suitable candidate for reproduction.
(This is also why incest seems so disgusting — we do not want to reproduce with someone who has similar DNA to us.)
By Brianna Wiest
The world coaches you to believe that the love that’s most meant for you is the one that’s most ecstatically passionate and dramatic.
What it doesn’t tell you is how common those feelings are.
The feelings that most people think are “love” are, most of the time, just attraction. It’s often just meeting someone who matches everything on your love map, the subconscious ideas you have about what you do and don’t want in a partner. …
By Ryan Holiday
A fourth-grader lines up obediently to return to class after recess. Looking around, surrounded by boys and girls the same age and the same size, he sees out of the corner of his eye a group of other kids who seem different.
They are older. Bigger. More confident. They make their way leisurely to their own line, not nearly as rushed by the thought of seeing their teacher. Their clothes look better. They have clearer cliques, roles within those cliques. They seem like they are having more fun too. They are cooler. So much cooler. …