By Brianna Wiest
Heartbreak is a hard thing, but it’s not a forever thing, and you will experience a disproportionate amount of it when you’re young.
While you’re moving from relationship to relationship, working on finding the person with whom you’ll stay long-term, you’ll have to cope with not just one but often a string of losses and heartbreaks. The repetitiveness can begin to create a learned helplessness: it just seems like your heart always gets broken, you never find the right person, or nobody is quite good enough for you. But this is just a temporary thing.
By Kendra Syrdal
1. It’s going to be, at times, very boring. It’s going to look like balancing your checkbook or keeping tabs on your money. It’s going to be in things like drinking enough water and going to work even when you don’t feel like it. It’s not going to be spontaneous or egregious or extreme in any way. In a lot of ways, most ways, it will be boring. But boring will be what you need.
2. But having your shit together doesn’t mean that you’ll never have fun ever again. You will still have wild nights, you…
By Maya Kachroo-Levine
Don’t be with someone whose affection you have to fight for. Fight for other things. Fight to stay together, even when distance pulls you in other directions. Fight for your family to like them. Fight to show them how much you care, even after a hard week. Fight to love them in the smallest moments.
But don’t fight to make them love you. Don’t push to make them fight for you. Don’t be okay with someone who will commit, but not fully. Don’t fight for someone who will love with boundaries, instead of with their whole heart…
By Jamie Varon
A lot of us have this false belief that we can think our ways into self-acceptance and self-love, like we can scavenge around ourselves for the errant pieces of our past that are causing all our current strife. Sure, we can heal and look back into the memories of who we used to be in order to make sense of who we are now. This is important work — to become self-aware enough to understand the ways our mind plays tricks on our heart.
Yet, changing beliefs about ourselves requires a degree of initial delusion. We have…
By Brianna Wiest
There are many different types of love we experience in a lifetime. You know that the type of love you have for your parent isn’t the same you have for your partner. But what you might not realize is that you can also experience different types of love within the course of a single relationship, and in fact, as a relationship progresses, that’s exactly what should happen.
When people talk about “falling in love,” they talk about romantic love. They talk about the newness, the nerves, the luster of a new person who is also, maybe, possibly…
By January Nelson
You hear people talk endlessly about the habits, traits, beliefs, and behaviors of highly successful people… and rightfully so. Dissecting the attitudes of those we want to emulate is essential to building the lives we really want to live.
But there is one thing, in particular, that is often overlooked — one absolutely essential habit that correlates with massive, life-changing success.
You’ve certainly heard about the power and importance of “gratitude” before, and you probably brushed it off as nonsense.
Well, of course it’s important to be grateful, you think, in the same way you have to…
By Holly Riordan
Entering a committed relationship with another person doesn’t mean you’re choosing a side. Bisexuals are allowed to settle down with a partner without being quizzed about their identity or told their truth doesn’t matter. Remember, a person’s sexuality doesn’t change based on who’s sleeping in bed beside them. You’re bisexual when you’re single, when you’re casually dating, and when you’re in a monogamous relationship with one special person.
You don’t have to tell the world you’re bisexual if you’re not ready (or if you would be placing yourself in a dangerous situation). You’re allowed to move at…
By Kendra Syrdal
1. Jumping to conclusions even when you know (deep down) it’s irrational. It’s okay to let your mind be impulsive and concoct grand scenarios (good or bad) as long as you’re able to pull yourself back down to earth.
2. Talking when you should listen. Especially when you realize it and back up, giving someone else the space they deserve.
3. Not taking care of yourself enough. Everyone has burned the candle at both ends more than once in their life and put themselves at the back of the line. Don’t beat yourself up further.
By Mélanie Berliet
1. Hooking up with a f*ckboy.
2. Convincing yourself for a minute that you might actually be the girl who changes said f*ckboy.
3. Bothering to question why a f*ckboy doesn’t want to be with you, as if the idiot were even capable of appreciating your awesomeness.
4. Quadruple texting a f*ckboy, even after it’s clear that he’s ghosting you.
5. Getting your heart broken by a f*ckboy.
6. Crying over a f*ckboy who doesn’t deserve your tears.
7. Hooking up with another f*ckboy, even though you know it’s a terrible idea and you’ve sworn that you’ll…
By Heidi Priebe
They don’t tell you that you’ll spend a large part of your adult life trying to reconstruct your first experience of love. That for a while, every date, every relationship, every person you fall into lust with will continuously be held to the impossible standard of the first person who ever made a home inside your heart and that everyone else will fall short. They don’t tell you that first love is a rampant, insatiable beast and that someday you’ll be glad you’ve found something more tame. But for a while, you’ll miss the wilderness. …