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Rachel Claire

1. You feel consistently uneasy or uncomfortable for no discernible reason.

Logically, there’s no reason you shouldn’t be happy, and yet something that you can’t quite yet identify doesn’t feel right, and that feeling seems to permeate most of your day.

2. You’re having intense feelings of envy over what your friends and peers are doing.

Jealousy is the emotion that communicates to us what we are subconsciously denying ourselves. When you feel angry or jealous over what your acquaintance is doing (even though you wouldn’t want exactly what they have) what you are trying to tell yourself is that there’s some way in which you aren’t allowing yourself to go after what you desire.

3. You have conflicting desires.

Maybe there’s a part of you that is ready to embrace something new, and another part of you that is scared to let go of what you’ve known. Maybe you’re with someone you care about a lot, but also want to “be single for a while.” No matter the circumstance, you’re not clear on what you want, and your life is in limbo because of it. …


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cottonbro

The first time I had a conscious crush on a girl, I was 21. We can go back in time and trace fascinations and very close temporary friendships and debate whether or not they were actually crushes, but right now that’s not what we are focusing on. This was the first time I saw a girl that I was like, “I want to kiss her in real life.”

It was the best friend of my roommate’s boyfriend. I had only seen her in pictures, so I knew who she was, and I needed to know everything about her. To put it in the dorkiest way possible, I thought she was so cool. She was finishing her senior year of college and getting ready to play basketball professionally, and she just had, like, swag? …


Don’t let your irrational fears talk you out of letting yourself find that out.

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Olga

1. Letting anybody convince you that because you’re young, you’re incapable.

Plato began his career in politics before he was 20, (and has stated that he faced ridicule in his coming-of-age for that reason.) Some of the greatest cultural tycoons of this century were in their 20s when their first huge contributions were made: Jobs, Zuckerberg, etc. Imagine where we’d be if they listened to the people who said, what do you know?

2. Arguing with people whose intentions are not to understand you, only to prove themselves right.

You do not owe it to anybody to carry on a conversation that is only serving the ego, but you do owe it to yourself to step out of the inevitable frustration and self-doubt of interacting with people who don’t listen to understand, but to respond; who don’t speak to be heard, but to defend. …


You are healed. You are whole again.

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Maksim Goncharenok

You are lost.

But then one day, in the most random of moments, for an unknown reason, you find a soul.

A soul that understands you in the most intimate way without you having to whisper a word. One that holds you like you are the most delicate beauty in the whole entire universe. It doesn’t let you fall. And even if you do start to fall, it tries to sweep you up before you even have a chance to hit the ground.

On the really hard days when you do find yourself in a million broken pieces, this soul helps glue your brokenness back together. It doesn’t get impatient with you. It doesn’t raise its voice. It doesn’t make you feel like the dirtiest mess. …


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Maksim Goncharenok

1. Calling you crazy is a way for them to ignore your voice. You shouldn’t feel bad when someone accuses you of overreacting because it says more about them than it says about you. It means they aren’t interested in hearing what you have to say. It means they aren’t able to show empathy for your situation. It means they don’t want to be bothered by your emotions and would rather pretend they don’t exist than take the time to talk to you about them. …


#6 — Everything is temporary

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Perchek Industrie

1. No matter how tight you hold on and how much you feel in control, everything could still fall apart. You could plan everything until there’s nothing left to plan and it could still all go to shit. Life is not about creating the perfect circumstances, but is merely about how you are able to persevere beyond the wreckage of a life you thought you’d have. …


From Brianna Wiest

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Sharon McCutcheon

A lot of people can be sexually compatible with a partner, but mental compatibility is the glue that keeps it all together. It’s what gives a relationship longevity, strength and depth. Here, a few things that mentally strong couples do differently.

1. They have the same long-term goal for the relationship.

When both partners want the same thing from one another, they are more capable of letting small arguments pass and focusing on the bigger picture, whereas couples who want different things will use arguments and differences as “outs.”

2. They don’t look for “signs.”

Mentally strong couples don’t wait for the relationship of their dreams to happen — they make the relationship of their dreams happen. …


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Maria Orlova

An open sky smiles. Finger tips grace the freckles the sun has traced on thighs. The grass licks. The ending of spring smells exotic. A resplendent constellation arrives. Afternoon heat penetrates the wetness of the morning grass. The ground is sprayed in an upward sunlight. Sun beams rage a construction of stairs built from air. The clouds walk higher into the stratosphere. Gravity loosens its pressure. Light links. The dandelion blooms. The oak blows away. Flowers are sugary. A saltish tickle of tongues. The bite of the bee. In the buzzing, the pregnant promise of honey.

The shape of love is as amorphous as the curves of a cloud. The static stretchiness of honeycomb opening. Delicate flesh is a portal to another world meanwhile in the rocky circular Earth plants suck dirt nutrients. Pollinate. You have the most fantastic eyes. Atoms turn. Atoms shift. Atoms push. The atoms are on a mission. The atoms have forgotten their structure. The atoms have gone aerial. These aerial atoms push deeper and deeper into nature. There the iris surfaces. There Darwin’s chain adds another link into God’s encrypted code. In the touching, a kodak and chemical cradling of truth. …


When you want to know if they’re your forever person

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freestocks.org

1. What do you think is the most important lesson you can teach a child?

2. What’s one lesson your parents taught you as a child that you believe has shaped who you are today?

3. Who do you feel played the biggest role in shaping the person you are today?

4. What’s one memorable lesson that person taught you?

5. Would you do something that wasn’t ‘allowed’ or ‘accepted’ if it was something you truly believed in?

6. What’s more important to you, telling the truth or little lies to make others happy?

7. Whose happiness is more important, your loved ones’ or your own? …


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When you live in a world that is constantly telling you to follow your heart, trust your gut, quit your day job and do what you love, it can be disheartening to find yourself not knowing where to start. When you start thinking I don’t know what to do with my life, what you really mean is that you don’t yet know who you are, or you don’t know what’s worth suffering for.

Finding your purpose is not about realizing that you are destined to be in a monastery or devoting your life to one, singular vocation or goal. Your purpose is not one job, it is not one relationship, it is not even one career field. Your purpose is, first and foremost, just to be here. Your existence has shifted the world in a way that it is invisible to you. Without you, absolutely nothing would exist just as it is right now. This is important to understand, because if you start believing that your whole purpose in being alive is just a job or a role you take on at home, what happens when you quit or retire, or the kids grow up and you’re no longer a parent? …

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