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8 Reasons Why Mentally Attractive People Will Always Be Hotter Than Physically Attractive Ones
Attraction is just perception.
By Brianna Wiest
1. Physical attraction is built from mental attraction. Your perception of someone’s appearance changes as you get to know them — for better (and for worse). This is because physical attraction is a very one-dimensional kind of experience, and after a few minutes, you inevitably seek (or come to understand) more about a person than how they look. All of this to say: mental attraction isn’t a nice alternative, it’s a requirement to build the kind of physical attraction that lasts.
2. Being connected by your brains is so much hotter than being connected by your bodies. Sex is holistic — that is, if you want to do it well. That electric, physical connection most people are seeking comes from the idea of who you’re doing it with — not just the fact that you’re doing it.
3. Smart is sexy. To be interesting, you have to be interested. If human attraction is based on some kind of survivalist desire to bond and procreate, it only makes sense that we’d desire someone who would make a good partner or co-parent. These may not be our conscious goals of sex or love or attraction, but they are certainly the evolutionary forces at play.
