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6 Concrete Signs You’re Outgrowing Your Current Life Chapter
What you used to find fun now feels forced.
By Molly Burford
Here’s the thing: We’re supposed to change. That’s kind of the whole point of being alive and it is truly the only constant in life. And yet, we often resist change. Resent it even. Fear it and neglect it and claim we want everything to stay the same.
We become attached to people and places and versions of ourselves that we can literally feel slipping through our fingers. But instead of letting these things go, we try to hold on to them even tighter. We make excuses, we hunt for loopholes, we do an impressive amount of mental gymnastics desperately trying to make situations or relationships or habits that no longer work continue to fit in our lives.
We often do this because we’re comfortable in our current circumstances. (Or maybe the better word is complacent.) Whatever the reason, to cling to things that are no longer meant for us will only prolong our suffering, not to mention put off the inevitable. Because things will change, whether we like it or not, and we can either learn to ride the waves of flux or keep swimming against its current until we’re utterly exhausted and have no choice left but to let go.
