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5 Lessons I Learned From Putting Walls Around My Heart
By Holly Riordan
1. Even though you think hiding your feelings is going to protect you, you can still get your heart broken. Your feelings might be hidden — but they still exist. You still like this other person. You still want to be with this other person. Just because you aren’t saying the words out loud doesn’t make them any less true. When they start dating someone else, when you realize you’ve lost your chance with them, it’s going to sting. No one else will know you’re in pain, but youwill know. And you will always wonder whether things could have been different if you chose another path, if you were more honest about what you wanted from them.
2. Putting yourself out there is scary — but at least you’ll have a chance of getting the ending you crave. If you keep your feelings to yourself, if you pretend you are completely heartless, your crush is never going to guess how you feel. If you send them signals you aren’t interested, then they are never going to ask you out because they don’t want to be rejected either. They don’t want to experience heartache either. Even if you feel like there’s no chance they would want to date you, your odds are much better if you’re clear about how you feel. If you act like you want nothing to do with them, then they’re never going to be yours. It pays to be honest. No, you might not end…
