5 Concrete Signs You’re In A Self-Abandonment Cycle
Self-abandonment is self-destruction.
By Molly Burford
Self-abandonment is the process of neglecting your own needs, wants, feelings, and values. Self-abandonment often presents in relationships but it can show up in the relationship we hold with ourselves, too.
Here are five concrete signs you’ve been stuck in a self-abandonment cycle.
1. You struggle with self-trust.
According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), self-abandonment is most often the result of low or absent self-trust. To trust yourself means you have faith in your own word, your own decisions, and your own instincts. If you have a lack of self-trust, however, you may second guess all of your choices, value others’ opinions over your own, and doubt your ability to see your goals through.
2. You’re a chronic people pleaser.
If you’re in a self-abandonment cycle, you most likely are also a chronic people pleaser. People pleasing presents in a number of different ways including incessantly apologizing, attempting to regulate the emotions of others, struggling to say no, and more.
