5 Concrete Signs You’re Chasing A Love That’s Not Meant To Be

The silence speaks louder than words.

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By Erin Whitten

Love is a journey, a dance of emotions, desires, and dreams. Sometimes, it feels like floating on air, while at other times, it’s a struggle to find the rhythm. As we navigate the intricate pathways of relationships, it’s essential to recognize when we’re moving in harmony with our partner and when we’re simply chasing shadows. Recognizing when a relationship isn’t the right fit can be a painful realization, but it’s a necessary step towards finding a love that truly resonates with our soul. Here are five undeniable signs that you might be pursuing a love that’s not destined for your heart:

The Silence Speaks Louder Than Words

There are moments in every relationship when words become superfluous, and silence speaks volumes. However, in your relationship, these silences have started to feel less like moments of mutual understanding and more like vast chasms of disconnect. Instead of feeling like a comforting embrace, the quiet moments are filled with tension, heavy with unsaid words and unresolved emotions. It’s a silence that doesn’t bring peace but instead highlights the growing emotional distance between you two.

You’re Painting Pictures, Not Living Them

Every now and then, everyone indulges in daydreams, imagining scenarios and moments. But lately, you’ve noticed that these daydreams are less about cherishing memories and more about crafting idealized versions of them. Instead of living genuine moments of connection and spontaneity with your partner, you’re mentally scripting them, trying to bridge the widening gap between your dreams and your reality. It’s as if you’re trying to paint over the cracks, hoping they’ll magically disappear.

Your Intuition Sends Warning Signals

Deep within, there’s a voice, a gut feeling that has always been your guiding light. Lately, it’s been sending you signals, whispering doubts and concerns about the path you’re on. It’s not just fleeting moments of insecurity but a persistent feeling of unease. When your intuition, which has been your compass through…



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