4 Reasons He Keeps Texting You (Even Though He Doesn’t Want To Date You)

He truly does want to be friends.

Thought Catalog
2 min readMay 30


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By Molly Burford

You’ve expressed you want a relationship with him. He says he doesn’t feel the same way. And yet, he continues to text you daily. It’s confusing, to say the least. Here are four reasons he keeps texting you (even though he doesn’t want to date you).

1. He’s insecure.

One reason he may keep texting you even though he isn’t interested in committing to you is that he enjoys the attention you’re giving him. It makes him feel good that someone likes him and he gets a confidence boost from keeping you on the hook. It’s especially likely he’s texting you for his ego if he continues to flirt with you after turning you down.

2. He’s bored.

Another reason he could continue to text you despite not wanting a relationship may be as simple as the fact that he’s bored and wants someone to talk to. Since you already have an established rapport, texting you is an easy remedy for his boredom and/or loneliness.

3. He wants the option to hookup.

Even though he may not be interested in a committed relationship, this doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to you and interested in hooking up. If he is flirty with you, texts you late at night, or only seems to be interested in seeing you if there’s a chance things could get physical, it’s highly likely this is why he continues to keep contacting you. If that’s cool with you, go for it. If not, let him go.

4. He truly does want to be friends.

Finally, he could sincerely want to remain friends with you despite not being interested in you romantically. If he let you down gently and specifically stated he wants to be friends and continues to stay in contact with you after the fact, this shows he does value your friendship. Of course, it’s up to you if you’re able to be platonic with him and nothing more. As long as you’re honest with yourself and him, you may end up getting a solid friend out of the heartbreak. And maybe just friends is what you were meant to be from the start. You just had to take a little detour first, that’s all.



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