4 Crucial Things To Remember If You Love An Overthinker

We know it can be frustrating, and we’re sorry.

Nika Zhorzholiani

By Molly Burford

Here are four crucial things to remember if you love an overthinker.

1. No, we can’t “just forget about it.”

Now, this isn’t to say we aren’t going to work on our anxiety, we will and we are! But simply dismissing what we’re worried about and instructing us to “just forget about it” isn’t going to make the fears go away either. It will just make us feel worse and even more misunderstood than we already do.

While you don’t have to validate the fears themselves, you can validate the experience. For example, saying something like, “I know this is hard to navigate, but I am here for you,” will bring us more comfort than you’ll ever understand.

2. We overthink because we care so much.

Because we don’t want to lose you. We often overthink how something we said or did could have come across, and how it could push you away and make you leave us. We overthink to try and figure out how we can make it up to you and make you stay.

3. We overthink as a means of self-protection.