15 Things That Happen When You Fall In Love With Your Life Instead Of A Person
1. You discover what you’re wildly passionate about, and you make time for those things.
Love is beautiful, but it isn’t everything. There are so many other things to be passionate about besides a person — art, photography, music, writing, literature, sports, exercising, work — to just name a few. When you start falling in love with your life, as opposed to investing all your time and energy into a relationship, you find time for the things that light a fire within you, the things that inspire and fuel you. And your life becomes more satisfying and complete as you focus on those things rather than romance.
2. You become more in-tune with your wants and needs.
Falling in love with your life means learning what you love, what you desire, and what you need. It means focusing on your goals and how you can, and will pursue them. It means discovering what you really want out of relationships, out of yourself, out of your existence on this earth, and creating a well-designed plan for your future.
3. You value the relationships that you do have, instead of focusing on the ones you don’t.
Romantic relationships aren’t the only things that fill your life with love and happiness. When you’re focused on things other than your love life, you invest more time in the people who fill you — your family members, friendships, and other platonic relationships. And you learn the incredible value of those people.
4. You travel, explore, and live selfishly.
When you fall in love with your life, you want to squeeze every minute dry. You want to travel to new places, try new foods, explore, and live how you want. This isn’t wrong. Falling in love with your life means taking advantage of what you have and chasing after the things you want. It means doing, going, and truly living.
5. You shift your focus to other important pieces of life.
When you’re not focused on a relationship, you take and make more time for other things — your career, hobbies, future, finances, etc. Your priorities shift in healthy ways and you learn to ground yourself rather than letting a relationship ground you.
6. You spend more time doing things, rather than wishing for things to happen.
Falling in love with your life means that you don’t like to waste time. You don’t like to chase things that don’t build or grow you. You don’t like to live a mediocre, uninspired existence. When you love your life you do things, rather than being a passive character in your own story.
7. You value advice from others, and take time to lend a listening ear.
You want to learn, to experience, to grow, to be inspired. Thus, you value the advice and guidance given to you from others and you’re more willing to be a support system for people who may need you.
8. You take more time to appreciate the little things.
Suddenly, little things like the sunset or a dog curling up next to you on the couch carry meaning. These little things that you so often overlooked are a central focus, and integral part of the wonderful, meaningful life you’re living now.
9. You are continually striving for better.
You pursue a life that supports your dreams, goals, and purpose. You appreciate where you are, but are never satisfied. You want to achieve more, be more, and live even more authentically. You love who you have the potential to be, and are continually trying to build and develop that person.
10. You spend more of your days outside or in nature.
The world around you has more value now. You enjoy hiking, walking, biking, or just sitting outside in the shade. You love just being — around friends or solo, just soaking in the beauty the world has to offer.
11. You feel fulfilled by the memories, experiences, and relationships you have in your day-to-day existence.
When you fall in love with your life, you aren’t looking for a romantic relationship to make you feel whole. You feel complete because of people around you, the experiences you’ve had/are having, and the memories you are continually making. Your happiness isn’t dependent upon a significant other, rather all the tiny, wonderful things that give you meaning and purpose.
12. You pray often, and feel both humble and thankful for what you’ve been given.
Every day, life surprises you with its beauty and wonder. You find yourself praying for the blessings you’ve been given, and relying on your faith to pull you through the hard times. You trust that you will find love when the timing is right; in the meantime, you are thankful and humble for where you are.
13. You no longer feel sad about not being in a relationship; your happiness is invested in, and dependent upon other things.
Your ‘single’ relationship status is no longer a burden or a negative label. You have come to terms with where you’re at romantically, and aren’t looking for a lover to fill a hole in your heart. Instead, your happiness is dependent on your experiences, your passions, your other relationships, and yourself.
14. You find yourself in awe of all that you’ve been through, and of the person you’re still becoming.
When you fall in love with your life rather than a person, you start to value yourself and what you’ve overcome. You start to see your purpose, and how events in your life have shaped or changed you. You find yourself in awe of how you’ve grown, and excited for who you will become.
15. You have learned the slow, beautiful, complicated, rollercoaster ride of loving yourself.
You still have days when you struggle to love yourself, but because your life has shifted from loving someone to loving your existence, you’ve learned to value your own heart and mind. You’ve learned that it’s okay to put yourself first, healthy even. You’ve learned that you are the only one who can determine your happiness. And you’ve learned that when you love your life, love will come when it’s meant to.
Marisa Donnelly is a writer, poet, and editor based in San Diego. For more of her writing, follow her on Instagram.