12 Ways You’re Making Him Think You’re Just A Fling And Not A Keeper (Without Even Realizing It)

Thought Catalog
4 min readAug 10, 2022
Anastasia Shuraeva

By Nicole Tarkoff

1. You only prioritize physical connection.

Lasting relationships have both physical and emotional connection. It’s not just one or the other, but a balance of both. Thinking that you have to attract him physically first, isn’t necessarily right or wrong, but it makes him think that’s what you care about the most. A physical connection will definitely attract him to you, but it won’t be enough to make a relationship last.

2. You get wasted when you’re with him.

He won’t take you seriously if you can’t form a complete sentence by the end of the date. He wants you to enjoy yourself, but he doesn’t want you to be falling over or have your head in the toilet by the end of the night.

3. You drunk call/text him.

He can tell when you’ve had one too many glasses of Pinot, especially when you start texting him things that he knows you’d never say in person, like how you just want to pinch his cute little cheeks and kiss his face off. It’s fine if you do it once and use the, ‘Sorry I was drunk,’ excuse, but when you do that every weekend it makes him think you’re not that serious.

4. You talk about other guys (who he thinks you might be sleeping with).

When you mention Brandon from the gym who taught you how to stretch your glutes, he’s thinking you and Brandon potentially did more than just stretch. When you constantly talk about other guys it makes him think there’s so many other men in your life, that there’s not enough room for him.

5. You always talk about your exes.

If you constantly talk about the men you used to love he might think you’re still in love with them. He understands you have exes, everyone does, but he wants to know that you’ve completely moved on from them.

6. You play hard to get.

There aren’t games in real relationships. There’s just the way things are, and the way people feel. And if you fail to…

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