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12 Signs That Your On-Again-Off-Again Relationship Is Finally Off For Good
You’ve stopped holding out hope that they will change.
By Heidi Priebe
1. The idea of being alone doesn’t freak you out anymore.
On-again-off-again relationships offer an ironic form of security — every time you’re sick of being single, you can run back to the same person and be reasonably sure that they’ll take you back. It’s difficult to terminate this cycle if you aren’t comfortable with the possibility of being alone, potentially for a long period of time. You know that things are fizzling out with your on-again-off-again relationship when the idea of being alone doesn’t freak you out as much as it used to — in a lot of ways it even seems desirable.
2. Your fantasies of the future don’t involve them anymore.
Even when the two of you were broken up, you always used to picture a future with them. After all, they were your “someday” person — your lobster. You know that things are starting to change when the image of them subtly sneaks out of your future. When you look five or ten years ahead, you see only yourself — your successes at work or in life and maybe a partner as well. But that partner is…
