12 Non-Negotiables To Set For Your Relationships This Year

Thought Catalog
4 min readNov 7, 2019
Johannes Rapprich

1. No longer will I let my worth be dependent upon my relationship status.

Who you are as a person is not measured by how deeply you are loved. Your uniqueness, your individuality, your value is not calculated by whether or not someone has your heart. Stop letting your worth be dependent upon your relationships. Whether you’re in something serious, searching for the one, or just focusing on yourself — know that love does not define you. And never will.

2. No longer will I settle for a soul that doesn’t value me.

You are a treasure. No, you’re not perfect. No, you won’t always do or say the right thing. But you deserve to be loved wholeheartedly by a flawed person who will fight alongside you, whatever you face. Don’t settle for being half-loved, for an almost, for temporary. This year, pursue someone who values you. And nothing less.

3. No longer will I waste time and energy on people who disregard me.

Like the famous quote says — there are so many mediocre things in this life; love should never be one of them. So don’t let it be. Don’t waste your time and energy on people who don’t treat you with respect and attention. Don’t throw yourself into a relationship with someone who isn’t putting 100% of themselves in, too.

4. No longer will I put everyone else’s emotions before my own.

Being selfless is a beautiful thing, but sometimes you have to learn to put yourself first, too. Your needs are just as important as the person you’re with. No more compromising yourself to make someone else happy, or sacrificing your happiness to bring a smile to someone else. Value yourself, too. And when you’re feeling a certain way, honor it.

5. No longer will I ignore the wild beating of my heart.

This year, listen — to yourself, to your mind, and most importantly, to your heart. Whether this means chasing a love that might be scary, or walking away from something that doesn’t sit right with your soul, listen to what your heart…

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