10 Simple Truths That Will Determine If Your Relationship Is Going To Last

Thought Catalog
4 min readJul 10, 2022
Luis Fernandes

By Nikita Gill

1. How quickly you forgive each other. As humans, we are massively flawed. On average, a human being makes at least two mistakes a day. What counts in a relationship is how quickly you forgive each other’s mistakes. My grandmother always said, “Don’t go to bed angry with each other.” This is excellent advice for a long-lasting, loving relationship.

2. How you respond to each other under pressure. The truth is that relationships are made through a trial by fire. It either burns you alive or it forges you. Your partner’s response under pressure should balance yours. If you panic easily, they need to be reassuring or vice versa. If you are able to get out of a stressful situation together in one piece, your relationship is worth keeping.

3. How closely your goals for your futures match. Relationships that come with an expiration date usually begin that way, too. It is important to establish with your partner whether they envision the same thing for yourselves in the future as you do. It won’t work if he/she doesn’t see a marriage and you do, or if you don’t want children and he/she does.

4. How much expectation you put on each other. Expectations are the leading cause of relationships falling apart. You see, we dream and make this idea of a perfect relationship with a soul mate and put all of that celestial pressure on a human being who is flawed. And of course they let us down. You can’t expect someone to defeat all of their flaws simply because you are in their life. You can’t expect the moon and the sun from them, either.

5. How secure you are in your relationship with each other. Jealousy is the worst. First of all, it makes the other person believe you don’t trust them, and that hurts. And secondly, it reduces the other person to feeling like they are a possession. If you cannot trust your guy to go to a stag party or your girl to sleep over at a friend’s place, what are you doing in a relationship together?

6. How you treat each other’s friends. It is extremely important to keep your friendships outside of your relationships. Your best friends, the friends who were there for you through crisis, will stay with you before and after your relationships. So it…

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